One stay at home moms journey to find herself again

Saturday, May 28, 2011

Blue Ribbon Bliss

I'm not athletic. I'm not 'miss sporty chick' I'm the one who, in P.E, when it was scooter week (ya know that square piece of wood with the 4 wheels attached to the bottom), I was the one runnin over people's fingers with my scooter or the one going sideways on the stupid things when everyone else was going straight because I could't figure out how to go straight for some reason. For some reason my scooter always seemed to veer towards the opposite side of the gym I was supposed to go. They are possessed, really! Or when it was rope climbing week; I was the one hanging 2 inches from the bottom of the rope bc I lacked any upper body strength so there I would hang until the teacher felt pity on me and told me I could get down or I burst into tears, whichever happened first. Those who went to school with me can attest to this. It's not like I was "chunky mcbutter pants" either so I don't know what my problem was. I sucked! yup, that was me. I'm not really sure how I passed any phys. classes...pity perhaps? Hence why it comes as a surprise to some people that I LOVE running, Sprinting specifically, I have no patience for any sort of long term running.
During our 6th or 7th, I'm not sure, track day I won my team a blue ribbon in our relay. Yup..me..specifically MUAH! I was on a team with my 'boy toy' at the time, (Not really boyfriend but..boy toy..kinda thing..ya know how it is in 6th and 7th grade) and..well, I don't remember who else. Probably 2 other equally unathletic people. I was the last person to complete our relay 'circle' (See, I don't even know the correct terms) We were WAY behind the other teams and I had to make up the difference and keep us from being totally shamed so the baton was thrust into my hand and I took off, I was the last lap in the 'circle of unathleticness'. I ran with everything I had, everything in me, it was up to me, Could the under dogs win........ oh and win we did! I completed that last lap and won us the blue ribbon...the blue...freakin... RIBBON! My team was ecstatic! Claps on the back, "WAY TO GO's" "YOU DID IT!" "Mr. boy toy" said something to the effect of "OH MY GOSH, how did you do that!?!?" Oh yes, the nerd team won. Thanks to me! VICTORY! My one and only blue ribbon. I was SO PROUD of that blue ribbon..heck, I still am!
Since then I've loved running. Every time I run I get an amazing high. Every time I feel exactly the same way I did the day of that race. I am the hero! All my stress melts away, I came, I ran, I conquered!
I don't succeed in a lot of things in my daily life. The kids don't like dinner, I didn't get the princess dress washed quickly enough, I forgot to do the dishes and now there's no sippy cups, there's not enough time everyday to be mom and dad and do it how I'd want, I get grumpy and lose my temper, I get exausted and don't wanna play 'princess', the list goes on. Being at stay at home mom and being a single parent at the moment leaves room for lots of failures, daily. Those who are living this life with me know it. I'm only 1 person and I can only spread myself so thin. The ball will drop on -something- daily. -Something- will suffer. But when I run I'm the hero, I win, I'm a superstar, I am victorious. It's my one thing that I succeed at EVERY time. Everyone needs that one thing they succeed in whether it's finding awesome sales, running, sewing, painting...whatever it is for you make time for that as often as you can.

Now...Everybody grab hands and since with me "WEEE ARE THE CHAMPIONSSSSS!!"

Happy Saturday!

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Reasons Why I'm a Blonde

1. I made my nice summer patriotic wreath and put it on the front door. Our front door has a 1/2 circle window near the top. The top half of the wreath can be seen through that window (from inside)........ Every night..multiple times a night... I scare myself thinking that the wreath is a persons head looking in the window. (yes..it's true) Thankfully I haven't called the Police yet saying "someone is looking in my window..oh..never mind..it's my wreath"

2. I've ran into the door numerous times in the past few days. My issue is I only open the door 1/2 way before my brain says "walk" so I obey..but apparently my brain is wrong and I end up running into the door... it sucks...and is embarrassing.

3. I was getting frustrated with my child bc she wouldn't get her shoes on and she kept interrupting my 'speech' I was giving her......... I was holding her shoes. she was trying to tell me that....... *sigh*

4. I really really want to get my nose pierced but I wonder what happens if I got a really bad cold, runny nose sorta sickness. ... I won't elaborate..ya'll can probably figure out what I'm goin towards here.... That's really the only thing holding me back.. Im serious..ya..I know. That and I am scared they'll slip and pierce my nose all the way through the other side. (Im a dork..I realize this.. I've had piercings before..I shouldn't have these issues)

I think I need supervision..........

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

I'm kinda addicted to a blog (and it's not my own) You should check it out: www.danoah.com It's a pretty amazing blog. He just came out with his first book and is so graciously posting a chapter a day on his blog. Go get his book! If you're a dad, thinking of being a dad or have a dad, go get it. PS: It is almost Fathers day! I read the first chapter today and it got me to thinking about something I see so often. (Getting up on soapbox)

Ladies and Gents...do you not realize how you act directly shapes who your child will be one day? How you act towards your spouse will directly show you what kind of husband/wife/mom/dad your child will be one day. Your children see this. I'm not saying I'm perfect, I'm not saying my marriage is perfect. Every marriage has problems and if you don't well..you haven't been married long enough. lol (Big problems..not like 'who loves who more'..bc that annoys us ol married folk)
Men... If you yell at your wife, hit her, say rude things to her, sit on the couch while your wife is chasing 3 kids, cooking dinner, breaking up fights and paying the bills (at the same time), acting unloving towards your wife, go out all night long, that 'teaches' your child how a husband is to act. Children look up to you and watch you. If that's what they see, that's what they think is acceptable to accept from a spouse or an acceptable way to act towards their spouse. If you have a daughter she will think that this is 'man' and that's what she'll look for in a mate.

Ladies, If we're cold and distant to our men all the time, unloving, talk badly about them alll the time, emasculate them, don't respect them, ect our children learn that that is how a woman treats a man.. When we do all those little things we know we do towards our mate that aren't exactly loving, kind, generous think 'am I acting like I would want my child to act towards their mate, would I want my son/daughter to marry someone who acted like this'

Personally, I wouldn't want my daughter to marry a man that hit her or talked badly to her or wasn't kind or didn't help her around the house/kids, so I don't accept that in my own life. Nor would I want my daughter to act disrespectful or emasculating towards her husband, so I don't act that way.

It's easy to act kind, loving, ect the first few years of your marriage...lovey dovey, blah blah ya ya ya :-) but once you get to 5,6,10,15 years..it's not always as easy..add in kids, a mortagage, bills, ect.........it's never too late to change though



Think about it....

Sunday, May 15, 2011

my lil tricks

I'm a foodie. I love food. Which is exactly how I got myself 50lbs overweight..by loving food and I've worked very hard in the past year to lose those 50lbs and I'd rather not go back. :-) I hate going without things that I love to eat, makes me grumpy. I cannot live on salad and asparagus, no ma'am, So I've found some easy substitutes to make the food I do love a little healthier. Trust me, if they weren't good substitutes I wouldn't share them because I wouldn't still be using them :-)

My Little Diet Lifestyle change Tricks:

I use ground turkey in all my foods that I used hamburger in. Chili, sloppy Joes, spaghetti, meatballs. I honestly cannot tell a difference and I don't have to drain grease (I hate draining grease) I can get a lb of ground turkey for 1.49 which is just about what I would pay for a pound of hambuger. The only thing I haven't tried turkey in is turkey burgers. I haven't got that brave yet, I LOVE me a burger. I also don't grill so that makes it a bit tricky :) I did get some turkey dogs on sale which I have yet to try..we shall see. We don't eat a lot of red meat. We eat LOTTSSS of chicken and ground turkey. I don't even buy red meat anymore unless it's for a certain dish. Some dishes I do 1/2 hamburger 1/2 ground turkey (meatloaf, those things that need a lil extra fat) Still saving calories though

Greek Yogurt. I use this in just about anything that calls for cream, sour cream, ect. I HATE yogurt but I can put the greek yogurt in things like tacos, cream soups, ect and I can't tell a difference. I have heard greek yogurt with honey and almonds in it is a wonderful snack but I haven't been brave enough to try that bc I don't like yougurt. One day I will though. (did you read that..I don't like yougurt but I put greek yogurt in place of creams, ect and I love it!!) When I make mashed potatoes I skip the milk and butter and just glop in some greek yogurt and it makes some REALLY good mashed potatoes! YUUMMM!!! It can be kinda pricey but I can make a tub go pretty far since I'm not using it everyday.

Night time snackies... I get them sooo bad, especially when I'm alone. I try to keep a bag of celery and carrots on hand and I munch on those in the evening with some veggie dip and before ya know it I'm too bloated from veggies to eat any other crap :-)

Here's my jewel that I just came up with in the last couple days..I took some chopped spinach and added it into the alfredo sauce I was making and my kids ATE IT! The little one, ya know, the one that doesn't eat green, had 3 servings!! The big one did ask what it was and I told her it was like seasoning, to make it taste good, even she ate 2 servings.. bwahahaha I honestly don't like spinch that much either but it worked great! I didn't taste it at all. Got some green in my non green eater.

We also aren't eating out as much (by 'eating out' I mean Mcdonalds, jack in the box, BK, ect bc I would have to be mental to take my kids, by myself, into a sit down establishment) But when we do (and trust me, there are definatly some nights since I'm doin this single parent gig) I skip all dressings on my burger, if I get one. No mayo, no spicy white sauce, no chipotle whatchama sauce..If i get something on there it's just mustard. Same for sandwiches.

Desserts: noowww you're speakin my language. mmmmmm Major sweet tooth! In all honesty I've cut my desserts down by a huuuuuge amount. I really don't eat sweets unless it's a certain week of the month and then I graze through like a starving hobo, which I do allow myself to that week to cheat. Trick #1: DON'T BUY IT! if it's not in the house ya can't eat it! Trick #2 when baking substitute the sugar for honey or Agave when possible. You can do a quick internet search to see if the recipe can be converted. Sooo much easier for your body to process since it's a natural sugar and less calories.

So there ya have it. Those are my little tricks. If you have any little tricks please feel free to share!

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Birth control

So I thought I would provide a little birth control for those out there thinking of having kids and are undecided :-) Please enjoy:

So what did you do today:

Got woken up at 430 by a kid who didn't want to sleep. After some bribery and milk she stayed in bed until 630.

Both darling dumplings woke up bright eyed and bushy tailed at 0630 (Very not normal for my
lil sleepers magoo) and proceeded to chase each other around the house screaming "get the scary monster" as I sat on the couch and tried to remember what day it was. ( Wednesday..right?)

Gave both darlings breakfast

Both darlings didn't enjoy breakfast

made darlings a 2nd breakfast

Broke up a cat fight..there was screaming, hair pulling, hitting (psst..I don't have cats)

Tried to convince the oldest that hitting her sister on the knee with a hammer "to check it" wasn't an appropriate activity.

Chased down littlest dumpling who had ripped off her diaper after pooping

disciplined other child for playing in Desitin

(Please note that the last 3 things were done while I was trying to get dressed after my shower)

Throughly cleaned out fridge and washed down all shelves/drawers

Chased poopy butt kid

fed kids lunch...to which they didn't enjoy bc they said it wasn't 'lunch food' so they didn't eat (apparently hot dogs are the only 'lunch food')

put dinner in the crockpot

Chased poopy butt kid...again.. (We're in a ripping off diaper phase)

Did 2 loads of laundry

Finally..NAP TIME! (please don't be mistaken..nap time for the kids..not me)

And here it is only 130pm! There's still so much more day left to experience! How exciting

I need a nap.......but unfortunately that won't happen bc eldest dumpling isn't napping today apparently.

I'm thinking a full time job would make me less tired..... at least I wouldn't be chasing poopy butt people, unless it's an old folks home but I couldn't work at an old folks home so I really don't think poopy butts would be a problem.

(see..this is why I don't write this stuff out normally..makes me wanna cry just a bit)

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Challenging Myself

I am giving myself a new challenge (as if I didn't have enough challenges in life) I want to do something I wouldn't normally do because when one does something they wouldn't normally do and they succeed at it there's an amazing sense of accomplishment and happiness and, hey, it's an awesome feeling. I want to better myself. Expand my mind. Expand my repertoire.
So here's my first challenge to myself: To read a book I wouldn't normally read and watch a movie I wouldn't normally watch.

When I read books I tend to read the same type of books or books by the same Author so I'm going to search out a book I wouldn't normally read and read it.

When I watch movies I usually only watch Comedy, some romantic and very few action movies (well, unless they have Will Smith in it then I'm all over that) hehe So I'm going to watch a movie I wouldn't normally watch.

I don't like watching or reading things that are out of my norm because if I do that I may not enjoy it and if I didn't enjoy it then it was a waste of my time and I hate wasting my time.

I'll blog after I've done both nd let you know what I read and watched and how it turned out. Any and all suggestions are welcome :-)

Saturday, May 7, 2011

Happy Mothers Day

Tomorrow is Mothers Day and moms everywhere deserve this day..Heck, they deserve "Mothers Week" especially us moms who do it 24/7/365. Those who aren't moms really don't understand the full magnitude of what moms do. Now that I'm a mom I appreciate my mom SOOOO much more. Sleepless nights, pain in places there shouldn't be, aches, sick kids, cranky fighting kids, the list goes on and on. Moms rock!
In fact, sharing custody with someone is starting to sound very appealing because at least I would get a break one weekend a month..at least. Anyone wanna pay me child support and take my kids for a weekend once a month? haha
So far this Mothers Day I've gotten myself a new tattoo, which was honestly the most relaxing, fun afternoon I've had in a long time and I bought myself a half dozen gourmet chocolate covered strawberries. I love chocolate covered strawberries..I really really do...mmmmm One of my favorite deserts next to Chocolate cake, of course. mmmm (Sorry, got sidetracked) My babysitter, bless her heart, had the kids make me finger paint pictures which I LOVED.

Anyways..my point is that I want one thing..ONE..for Mothers day. To get in bed and not have to get out of bed until at -least- 7am. 8am would be amazing but that's some pretty high hopes because I don't recall a time I've had my kids and slept until 8am. No Kidding, last night I was up 6 times between the hours of 10pm and 630am. One had to pee, another had a dream, another needed water, more water, the other water, one just didn't wanna sleep anymore...and I only have 2 kids....granted last night was a little extreme but you get the jist. And please, let's not go into the whole "put them to bed later" thing...okay? That doesn't work with my kids. Later bedtime equals kids up at the same time AND extra cranky. So let's just not go there. okay? Thanks!

Honestly, I'm not all that excited about Mothers Day tomorrow (bad mom! bad!) Different day....Same story... I just hope I can get through tomorrow without crying. Perhaps since I wrote this blog my kids will sleep in tomorrow.......

Dearest Children,
If you let mommy sleep ALL NIGHT tonight and sleep in until AT LEAST 7am (8 or 9 would work beautifully also) We will have pancakes with chocolate syrup for breakfast and chicken nuggets for lunch..and icecream :-D
Love, Mommy

To all those moms out there. HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!! We ROCK! and we TOTALLY deserve this day! Even if our families don't get what all we do, us fellow moms DO understand. Happy Mommies Day! Wouldn't trade being a mommy for the WORLD!

no more BK goodness

I love Burger King..I really really do. Their fries are the best ever and now that they have new chicken tenders those are AH-MAZ-ING. So last night the girls and I were out running a few errands, it was late, nobody had napped so we headed to BK. I decided against my better judgment to actually go INTO the resteraunt. I still had errands to run after, the kids were hungry then, so we did. I was already a tad bit cranky... So anyways we go in, I order, I order my kids a reg. meal that they are going to share bc I didn't want to deal with the stupid lil toy kids meal thing. chicken nuggets, I promised chicken nuggets, they had their hearts set on chicken nuggets....well wadda ya know that stinkin woman gives them a toy..Okay, be polite, thank youuuu..*rolls eyes* Then Lillia decides to climb the railing thing and the lady takes it upon herself to holler at my child as I'm trying to order..heres the thing..If I'm standing there, granted I can't see behind me where lillia was, BUT, say to me "she's climbing" or SOMETHING and I will take care of it, do NOT take it upon yourself to holler at my child. So my cranky mood was pushed further. Partly bc of Miss BK and partly bc I already told my child to behave.
So whatever, I ordered, I told her it was for here NOT to go. She calls my number and theres a bag of food there, I stare at her, ask her if thats mine, she says yes... "uhm, I said it was for here" "ohhhhh sorry! 2 number 5's" "uhm..no..I wanted 2 #12's"
So Miss BK starts in with "you REALLY REALLY REALLY SAID you wanted 2 #5's" aruging with me. At this point I have to look at the menu and see what a number 5 is bc I haven't the faintest Idea what a number 5 could possibly be because I have NEVER in my LIFE ordered a number 5. I look and see its 2 grossly HUGE burgers with all kinds of goopy crap on it. All the while she is going on trying to convince me of what I ordered, which further angered me. I've worked in food service, If a customer says an order is wrong..and order is WRONG so you FIX IT, regardless of what YOU may think. At this point I'm standing there staring at her doing the blinking thing trying my hardest to not go to jail. Then (at here's where I turn into Crazy psyho woman) she starts LAUGHING at me saying "well I wondered what you were going to do with 2 huge burgers" see...now..here's the thing.. do not laugh at me bc YOU can't get my order right. WHY would I order something that I didn't even know existed on the menu and if you can't even get my here/to go status correct what makes you think you are soooo right about WHAT I ordered to begin with..and perhaps if you weren't hollering at my child as I was trying to order you would have gotten the order correct.... PERHAPS!?
So she sees that my blood is officially boiling and then says "oh okay, do you want me to change it" At this point all I can squeak out is "no..don't touch my food again" and I walk off. I do have to say that I owe my kids BIG TIME..big..big..TIME, bc they didn't flip when they saw the burgers instead of chicken which is a miracle in and of itself. My kids actually half way ate the food, which I was VERY thankful for. Lillia ate bread and fries and I actually got a 'num num" from Lana who ate the burger.
She then had her lil drive through boy come out and talk to me and try to make it right and frankly, I didn't want to talk to him either bc all he wanted to do was tell me what was ON the burgers which I already knew bc I had looked at them. I ended up telling him it was fine bc I really don't like sending food back, especially if they know I'm mad at them. I'm paranoid they'll spit in it or something and my kids -were- eating it so I let it be. Honestly, it's probably best I let it be because I woulda either ended up kicked out of BK or in jail. (yes, I really do have that much pent up stress and I -was- really that angry) I will not be going back to that Bk anytime soon which is sad for me bc the only other one is on post. Now I gotta drive all the way on post for the beautiful BK goodness.

Isn't BK's motto "Have it your way" ? Heads up..Not at the one on Rancier, for those in Killeen, The motto is "Have it OUR way"

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Findin a boy to marry me up!



I'm starting to become a little worried about my little princess. She's starting to show some signs that I, and I'm sure her father too, if he were here, would find disturbing.

For instance: She has had a very candid discussion with her preschool teacher about how she wants to 'find a boy to marry her up' ( yes, her exact 3 year old words) and tells me daily that she *really*..no..REALLY MOM, needs a boy to 'marry her up' and "can daddy help find me a boy to marry me up" Before she leaves her preschool she will walk up to these 2 certain boys (twins so less) and say to them "Bye boys, I have to go now" to which they just stare at her. (PS: I don't find that very friendly, that's so 'guy-ish' At least say goodbye to my baby!) The child will search out these boys (Cutest little black twin boys ya ever saw) and tell them "Bye boys, I have to go now"

and then today..........the whopper.......... We are outside playing and this guy rides by on his bike and by 'bike' I mean bicycle. (black guy again..starting to see her preference...it's all good!) The guy was at LEAST 16 bc he had on his lovely "I'm going to work at Mcdonalds" shirt. (at least she's pickin men with jobs) and after he rides by she comes up to me and says:
Lillia: Mom, that was Corley (..I dunno..)
Me: Oh really now, How do you know that?
Lillia: Because he's my guy
Me: I'm sorry..what?..he's your guy?
Lillia: yes, he's my guy..His name is Corley, He's riding hims bike to Hims house. I'm going there later but for now I'll just stay and bisit wif you. (I swear..I am NOT kidding..I could not make this stuff up)
Me: well...How kind of you... What are you going to do at his house?
Lillia: I'm just gonna play wif his brothers and sisters

and she walks off for a few seconds...comes back and says:
Mom, Can you open that gate so that I can go call that boy and say hi to him? I'll stay on the sidewalk because we never ever go in the street or stomp in the street or run in the street...cars run us over. (As she is explaining to me what we 'never ever do in the street' she is acting them out by stomping and running in place...just imagine that)
Me: No, I am not opening the gate, no you are not going to holler at boys and I'm sure he's gone by now hon.
Lillia: No he's not...his house is right down there...and his name is Corley.
Me: Lillia.........go play.


Now can you see why I'm starting to get a bit worried? She starts school in a few months........ Lord help us!

Monday, May 2, 2011

Hello again friend!

It's been a hard few months, hence the lack of blogging..What I was dealing with couldn't really be blogged about... In a nutshell my world was shaken. What I thought was true, was not. What I held dear was ripped from me. I'm exausted. Mentally and emotionally. So much so that I wonder if I will ever feel normal again. I'm overwhelmed. House, kids, cleaning, tantrums, fighting, hitting (one kid hitting another..just to clarify), kicking (again..kids), the messes, the dogs and add onto that the drama of the past 2 months. Those who you think will be there for you in a trying time sometimes aren't and those that you don't expect to step up, do. Trials really do show you who your friends are. Those who stood by me and put up my moods are truely angels :) I was at a point where I was lonlier than I have ever been in my whole life and I can honestly say that, which is sad bc there have been some very lonly times. I felt a depth of lonliness that I have never felt before. I still feel that lonliness, it creeps up on me and is suffocating at times. It's been over 2 months and I still have bad days. Good days turn to bad days, bad days turn into good days..emotional rollercoaster is still runnin at an alarmingly fast pace. Where am I going from here? I'm not sure. It's not over yet. I'm not sure when it'll be over. But here's the thing though..I've survived. It's not over..verdict is still out..but for now...I've survived. :-)
Being a single parent during this time was incredibly difficult. The day to day demands of single parenting are enough to wear a person out without added drama. I had to have my mom take the girls for a week, which I have NEVER..EVER done. Never have I let my kids out of my sight (let alone, out of the state) for more than 2 nights, but when one isn't sleeping nor eating one has to take drastic measures. But I will tell you that the week break was amazing for my soul. It was an amazing breath of fresh air to get myself together as much as I could and be a good mommy to my princesses.

Lots of things are uncertain...but I do know that I am stronger, more confidant, and NOTHING that happened was in ANY way my fault. I don't know why I was handed this trial. I really wish I could give it to someone else. I believe there was a reason because there's a reason for everything and for now I have to keep going. Putting one foot in front of the other and keep going up this hill. I would love to stop and sit awhile. surely there's a little bench on the hill.
If you don't take anything away from this blog, take this: You are stronger than you think you are. No matter what struggle you are facing you -can- and will live. You -can- do this. You are stronger than you think, stronger than you feel.