One stay at home moms journey to find herself again

Monday, August 3, 2015

Day 32.... Am I worth more than a Pile of dirty laundry!?

Here I sit.. day 32.. and I'm eating Whole 30 approved chicken salad..with whole 30 Mayo.. on Spinach leaves..  and here's why... I woke up on day 32.. .Today.. with the worst migraine I have ever had in my life. I'm talking light hurting, hit with a steel pole, please nobody talk to me Migraine.

On day 31 the only non Whole 30 approved foods  I had was 1/2 a biscuit with strawberry Jam, a PB&J and a  small piece of cake.  My body was not happy. And I wasn't prepared for that.   I'm not sure what it was..whether it was the grains or the sugar or both.  But it hit me like a ton of bricks.   That cake or PB&J was not worth the pain I had today.

Today all I wanted was my "Good" food.  J and I did go out to lunch today at Olive Garden.. I stopped myself after 1 and a half bread sticks and half my lasagna... It was a splurge I was willing to take a hit for. It was good... It was not "Oh my gosh, take me Jesus" good, though.. as I remember it being.   I've gotta find the right balance and I wasn't prepared for that.   At around 2pm after our big lunch I felt the all too familiar Carb Coma come on.  Something I Haven't felt for a month.  It sucked.  I hated feeling exhausted... Because I ate some sub par food.

My other struggle has been taking the time to prepare food for myself now that I don't -have- to.  My mind says "I'll just snack on the kids' pancake.. I don't have time to make anything"  I think of everything that's waiting for me.  Bathing 3 kids, vacuuming, dishes, laundry, mowing the yard,... It's all calling me. Every mom feels it. The pressure.  The kids need this or that.. I don't have time to make myself anything..   I have to put myself first. Before the laundry.  Essentially I am telling myself I am worth less than a load of stinky clothes.  Woah. I am telling myself I am worth less than a load of stinky clothes.   That puts things in perspective huh?   Yet Here I sit with all the weight of everything that needs done pushing down on me.  The little voice in my head telling me I dont have time to prepare something because Lillia's out of clean pants.. and the yard really needs mowed.. and the trash needs taken to the curb.. and the carpet needs to be vacuumed...and I really ought to  mop too.

Day 32 and I haven't found a balance yet.  I really hope I have balanced today correctly.

1.  I am important and deserve good food
2.  Is that splurge worth whatever revolt my body may do?
3. Am I more important than some dirty clothes.


Saturday, August 1, 2015

Day 30...Holy smokes..did I really do it?!

Today is Day 30!!  Cooking Whole 30 has become second nature to me.. so second nature that when I went to make my grocery list for the next couple weeks 99% of the meals were either Whole 30 or Paleo because none of our "normal" recipes sound good.  Cheese, cream, pasta... Not appealing in the least.

So...30 day recap....

I've lost a grand total of 15 lbs.  FIFTEEN!!  I was originally hoping for 10.  At the 2 week mark I was 14 lbs lost.  After that I had hoped to get to 20 lbs but for some reason the remaining two weeks I only lost a pound.  I continued to eat clean and I didn't starve myself, just as I had done the first 2 weeks.  All in all, I'm amazed!   I did no exercise whatsoever.  Super pleased.    I now have only 15 more pounds to get to my goal weight.

Non scale victories:  I'm sleeping better than I ever have.  I have more energy than I ever have.  I no longer have the 2pm crash.   Sure I get tired and worn out but I no longer crash.  I'm happier. My moods are better.   I had zero PMS.  I haven't felt bloated or had any stomach pain in a month.

SO many victories.  When I started this I was completely and totally scared. I had never done anything like this before.  In Kansas our meals are made up of biscuits, gravy..lots of gravy...cornbread..corn...
It's actually frowned upon to not eat corn on the cob during the summer... I got a couple "You can't eat CORN?!?!"  responses. haha   And to step out and completely change everything I ate was really  hard and really scary.

This was, overall, one of the -best- things I have ever done for myself.   I'm a better mom.. a better wife.. I get more done in the day..

Budget-wise:  Our budget in July was actually better than it has ever been. We ended the month with excess funds and that never happens!

What I've learned:  Food doesn't control me.  I don't have to eat food that is in front of me.   Sure, biscuits and pancakes are good but I don't -need- them.   Food fuels me and that's it's only job. Food's job isn't to make me happy.
Watermelon, trying new veggies, eating zucchini fresh from a garden... -that- is exciting.

Moving forward we've decided we will be eating an 80/20 diet.. 80% whole 30/Paleo, 20% regular diet... Some things will never come back, the coffee creamer for instance, eating in the evenings, grains will be much more limited for me overall

Breakfast today was 2 fried eggs, 1/2 an avocado, grapes, and some roasted potatoes
Lunch was later but I had a chicken sausage, tomato slices, and a nectarine
Dinner will be some pork chops, brussels, and some zucchini

I see another whole 30 in the very near future!!