One stay at home moms journey to find herself again

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Just Because You Can't See It Doesn't Mean It's Not There

All too many times people think that if you come home from war without external injuries you are okay. They say "Count yourself blessed"  And we do! Thank God mine and many others I know didn't lose their lives. I've lost many people I know in this war, but let's all remember though that there are injuries you don't see. Injuries that only someone close to that person can see.  TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury),  PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder),  and anxiety issues are a few of the many mental and psychological injuries that can occur while overseas.  They are far too often overlooked unless you know someone affected by it. 

This blog isn't political, I don't want it to be, I don't do political.  Honestly, I haven't decided who I am voting for and I don't give a hoot who you vote for.   Let me say one thing though... Please be aware, when someone says they are going to cut Military spending, that isn't just more pay for the Military members. It isn't brand new top of the line trucks.  Cutting funds for the Military means that programs that help soldiers and families deal with mental health will be cut. Less funding for those that need help!  Less programs available to help the families deal with what their spouse is going through.  Programs like that are invaluable. Programs like that save lives. Programs like that save families.  Programs like that saved MY family.

The man I am married to today is not the man I married. I know many many people whose story is the same.  My husband has a TBI.    

Why did that husband walk away from his family at the fair? Why is that man anxiously looking around the restaurant. Why did he make them leave the mall far before his wife or girlfriend was ready? Why can't he remember where he put this or that?   Why did he get so mad over such a little thing? Why does that man sitting there look so angry?  In a crowded mall you see a man and woman walking together and the woman is visibly anxious... is he beating her? Perhaps she's anxious wondering if her husband is okay..if he's going to need to leave before they've accomplished what they came for...wondering if all the people in the store will cause her husband to feel so anxious that he gets mad.

Before you judge just remember....maybe there's something else going on, far greater than you can imagine.

Let us never forget the wounds and injuries that we can't see.  Those that aren't visible to our eyes.

1 comment:

Josh said...

I love you honey! Only through your support have I been able to not go down the road so many others have.